7 tips for the last 10 nights of Ramadan
Ramadan started off well – well enough, at least.
I was pumped up, enthusiastic, and tried hard to put my best foot forward.
I was on top of my Ramadan plan and was really in the zone, taking it one day at a time.
I even wrote a whole blog post about preparing for Ramadan, something I’d never done before.
But now, somehow, I’m finding myself in this so-called mid-Ramadan slump.
I’m not as enthusiastic as I was… and I’m not happy about it.
I know my heart wants to be fully present in Ramadan, but somehow, my body is not cooperating, and somehow, I’m beating myself up.
Long story short, I’m feeling demotivated.
The mid-ramadan slump isn’t a strange concept, I guess. Most people go through it. The main reason behind the slump is: we’re human. And subhanAllah, we can overcome the slump because we’re human!
So here are some reminders I’m writing to myself, hoping you benefit too. Especially since the last 10 days are upon us, subhanAllah.
1. Renew your intentions, and renew them again. Remember that the whole point of Ramadan is to gain taqwa (God consciousness), so support yourself to get back on track. The month itself won’t last much longer, subhanAllah. Go back to the basics and pour your heart out to Allah. Tell Him it has gotten hard for you but you don’t want to slip or give up. Tell Him you are aware that you’re going through this slump because of the weakness of your own self, so beg Him to give you the strength to keep going.
2. We’re approximately 20 days in and it’s now obvious that having your phone as your buddy during Ramadan isn’t serving you. Limit the time you spend on your phone. You’re happier and more productive without it. You love the peace and calm that comes along with being phone-free. Give yourself the permission to take daily breaks from your devices. Most of all, don’t just say you’re going to limit your screen time – take action!
3. If you start to feel tired or sleepy while reading your daily portion of the Qur’an, for example, don’t drop everything entirely and go to sleep (or screen). You’re not ‘bad’ for feeling tired. Your willingness to keep going shows that you want to do what’s right. So when you feel tired, switch the deed and do something else, like listening to a beneficial podcast. This doesn’t mean you should deprive yourself of sleep though – just be careful not to oversleep during the day. Re-analyze your day and re-strategize. If you’re putting too much on your plate, take it easy and set smaller, more realistic goals for yourself. Don’t feel pressured to do it all and be it all. Allah loves when you are consistent in your deeds.
4. Take care of your body. Make sure you’re eating healthy meals for suhoor and iftar because you really are what you eat! If you eat junk, you’ll most likely feel like, well, junk! Try to eat lots of fruits and veggies, and make sure you drink a lot of water. Take care of your body physically by keeping yourself in a good and presentable state throughout the day. If you stay in your pajamas all day, you may not get out of that lazy state of mind. This may have a direct negative effect on the quality of your ‘ibadaat (acts of worship).
5. Listen to reminders about Ramadan, its blessings, and its virtues. As humans, we know the right things but we don’t always do them because part of being human is that we forget. Allah says in the Qur’an (51:55), “So remind, for indeed, the reminder benefits the believers”. InshaAllah the more we remind ourselves about the huge opportunity that is Ramadan, the easier it’ll be to just keep going.
6. Keep a checklist specifically and solely for the last 10 days. Make a list of all you want to accomplish, and hold yourself accountable. It’s just 10 days, beautiful. You could even buddy up with someone like a friend or family member to make sure you’re both on track. You can break up the list into first 3 days, then next 3 days, then final 4 days. The smaller the number of days on the list, the easier it will be to achieve inshaAllah.
7. Remember this: Ibn al-Jawzi said: “When the race horse knows that it is nearing the end of the track it exerts all of its effort to win the race. Do not allow the race horse to be more clever than you. For verily, deeds are judged by their conclusions. So if you didn’t do well with welcoming Ramadan then perhaps you will do better bidding it farewell.”
Keep going, beautiful. You got this, bi idhnillah.
May Allah make this our best Ramadan yet, and may He choose us to witness Laylatul Qadr.